Law of Attraction Has Me in a Spin Change Your Feelings, Change Your Life

I came across Lynn Grabhorn’s ground breaking book on Law of Attraction by accident. As my husband needed to go to the library, I accompanied him there for something to do. I stopped at the row of non-fiction books closest to the door, intending to keep on moving around the room till my husband was finished. Somewhere between Philosophy and Great Lives, I discovered ‘Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting’.

As intrigued as I was by the title, l was even more intrigued by its subtitle – ‘the astonishing power of feelings’. According to the author, you can make your life just the way you want it to be not by working harder, or being more positive or saying affirmations a hundred time a day, but by focusing on what you really want, and injecting your desires with feelings.

It reminded me of an old time favourite movie of mine ‘Groundhog Day’ with Bill Murray. I won’t spoil the story for anyone out there who hasn’t seen this piece of creativity, suffice it to say that Bill found himself in one of those impossible situations that no amount of worry could help. He screamed, he fussed, became thoroughly depressed, decided life was not worth living, but could change nothing.

As Lynn Grabhorn would say, his focus was completely on what he didn’t want. And so long as his focus remained on what he didn’t want, all he could hope for was more of the same.

According to Lynn, that’s how most of us live – worrying, fearing, fretting, fussing. And as long as we’re in that place of what we don’t want, that’s where we’re going to remain.

Back in Punxsutawney, Pennsylvania, Bill, after knocking his head against a solid wall of ‘I don’t want this’, came to the conclusion that if what he was doing wasn’t working, perhaps he should change his focus.

Now here’s the tricky bit. Deciding simply to want to get out of the bad situation is not really focusing on what you want. You must want a positive outcome.

Bill decided that what he wanted was not ‘Please, get me out of this,’ – he’d already done that a million times, and it hadn’t worked - but rather, ‘I want to be happy,’ ‘I want to be useful,’ ‘I want to have friends,’ ‘I want to develop my talents’.

Did things change for Bill? Would I be writing this if they hadn’t?

As hard as it is to believe, most of us, says Lynn Grabhorn, spent our time thinking about the things we don’t want to be part of our lives. More often than not, we have no idea of what we do want and we drift on the sea of our worries and other people’s agenda for us.

The Law of Attraction works in either case. If your focus is on what you don’t want, it will deliver. If you decide you want to live the good life – whatever that means to you - it will deliver that too.